I never thought I would get a tattoo. The only tattoo that ever resonated with me was on a young woman I knew who had lost her mother; there on her wrist, in her mother's handwriting were the words, I love you. No way anything would have reached that level of meaning for me, back when tattoos were becoming the norm, and besides, why would I want something permanent that I might someday tire of?
And then I had two major surgeries in a year, scarring my body in ways I didn't choose.
And our beloved daughter Aubrey joined the tattoo community. So I asked her what the tattoo on her arm meant, and she said, "Remember that book we used to read all the time when I was little? Miss Rumphius? She spread lupine seeds all over her town and made it more beautiful. This tattoo is a lupine because I want to make the world more beautiful." It wasn't long before I had her tattoo in the exact same place on the same arm, my left...it goes straight to my heart.
I too want to make the world more beautiful. I want to do this by providing trauma-informed education to healthcare providers, to pastors, to educators; to law enforcement, to lawyers, to parents. Because learning about how our brains and bodies wire and respond to our lived experiences, good and bad, across the lifespan increases empathy and compassion for others. Increases patience, lends insight, improves communication, and leads the way to new solutions. Deep healing is possible - I've seen it. I've experienced it. And I want to share that with others.
And so, the logo for my business is Aubrey's and my tattoo, a lupine, to represent the seeds I plant every time I speak and write. Aubrey drew it, and it makes me smile. Maybe it will make you smile, too.